Back-2-Basics: Relationships – Communication Part 1

John 16:13 – And when he the Spirit of Truth comes, he will lead you into all Truth.

Truth is at the core of having solid communication in relationships.  But, the one truth that we all fail to accept is – if we are going to believe the truth that comes from God. We must first accept that we have to learn what the truth looks like. This is because we are accustomed to believing the lie (or expect the lie) than we are the truth – as a result of the deceptive nature we must all battle. This perspective (or lack of) creates a distorted view of the truth, which in turn distorts our ability to live the truth – affecting the way in which we communicate with others.

2 Corinthians 10:5 – We demolish arguments and every pretension (posture) that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

We all like to win the argument, because we were never made by God to be wrong (the deceptive nature, or sin nature distorted our perspective – causing the lie to be more attractive than the truth).

 

This leads us to react or converse from 2 platforms: 

1). We all have interpretive opinions: We create an opinion from our own interpretation of the circumstance, weather we know what we are talking about or not.

2). We are manipulators: We all want people to see things our way, so we will argue our position as right, until we have won the moment.

 

Satan’s goal is to “Steal the Word – or truth” through circumstance. This began with Adam and Eve, and exist in our lives today.

Isaiah 59:14 – So justice is driven back, and righteousness stands at a distance; Truth is fallen in the street, Honesty cannot enter.

Being still helps us to practice not only listen to God, but as well, we learn to be good listeners to others.

James 1:19 – My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.

Remember that in relationship, “your word is your bond” – Often we are guilty of lying, or making commitments via our words that we fail to keep, and this affects the overall relationship, creating a wedge of dis-trust between us and the person we are in relationship with.  No lie can serve the purposes of God. This is an issue of the heart, as a man or woman’s word is only as good as his character.

***In addressing the grey that has infiltrated Christianity, we must be intentional about responding to God, otherwise we will fear faith, and the areas in which we fear faith, are the areas in which we find the darkest shade of grey – dis-honest living. ***

Proverbs 21:23 – Whoever keeps (hold firmly) his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble

 

Application Exercise:

1). Communication is an essential part of the relationship process. Looking at your relationship with God:

Ask the Holy Spirit to show you what Season you are in – write down what he says, and then begin to talk to Father from this place. Remember, knowing your season, helps you communicate effectively with God, which positions you to participate with Him as well.

Back-2-Basics: Relationships – Intro

There are three areas in which we see a break-down in relationship:

1). How we communicate in Relationship
2). Intimacy in Relationship
3). Relationship with Money

When the truth giving spirit is giving revelation, it causes the heart of man to be warm and open to what the spirit is saying.

Example: Emmaus road story –

Luke 24:13 – After Jesus had risen, he met with 2 men as they were talking along a road, but they did not recognize it was Jesus – afterword their eyes were opened to who was with them, and said to each other in verse 32, “were not our hearts burning within us while he talked with us and opened the scriptures to us?” The anointing of God causes the hearts of men to be warm, moldable, and pliable, leaving a tangible representation of Gods expression of LOVE.

When a person sees God for who he is, they see love – We have to be careful though, because to often men reject what they don’t understand in their minds – causing them to reject the revealed love of God – because they can’t control it.

 

Matthew 22:37-38 – Jesus replied: “Love the lord your God with all of your heart and with all your soul and with all of your mind. This is the first and greatest command. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’

It is important as we engage with God in this series, to allow your hearts to opened and warmed by the word of Gods spirit, so that we come out of this series knowing how to have healthy relationship with God, Ourselves, and Others.

As an Introduction to the series, lets look at each topic of conversation we will cover.  Some of my teaching will come out of Edwin Lewis Cole book, Communication, Sex, and Money

 

COMMUNICATION:

John 16:13 – And when he the Spirit of Truth comes, he will lead you into all Truth.

Truth is at the core of having solid communication in relation.  But, the one truth that we all fail to accept is – if we are going to believe the truth that comes from God, we must first accept that we have to learn what the truth looks like. This is because we are accustom to believing the lie (or expect the lie) than we are the truth – as a result of the deceptive nature we must all battle. This perspective (or lack of) creates a distorted view of the truth, which in turn distorts our ability to live the truth – affecting the way in which we communicate with others.

 

2 Corinthians 10:5 – We demolish arguments and every pretension (posture) that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

 

INTIMACY:

“Trust Makes Vulnerability possible. Lack of trust makes it impossible” (Cole, pg.45)

It is often difficult to talk about one’s level of intimacy with others, because in our minds, intimacy equates to Sex. But the truth is, in any relationship, there are levels of intimacy that occur. TRUST is at the core of our interpretation of LOVE. In fact, in order to give oneself away fully, there has to be a level of trust that has been established by extensive experience with someone.

 

TRUST leads to SUBMISSION.

Jesus said in John 14:15 If you LOVE me you will obey what I say – this level of Love has its origin in Obedience, and establishes a strong unbreakable level of Trust through submissive obedient experience. The provisions of this love are, Identity, security, and Stability (Cole, pg.46), which are key for developing a solid relationship. From Submission, Jesus says, we are able to receive (Believe Him) the Spirit of Truth, a helper who dwells in us forever.

Submission (honey pot) is at the core of Intimacy, which leads to unity. Often the great struggle in Intimacy between 2 people is:

SEX:

In a society filled with pornography where lust is glorified, sex is cheap, marriage is portrayed as nothing but a problem and living together a solution, where men and women are viewed as nothing more than a body made to gratify the lust of our flesh and the sexual orientation of a man or woman is compromised by the lie of Satan (Cole pg. 86) – it is refreshing to see that God is raising up a generation who are still willing to do things Gods way. 

MONEY:

“Money is meant to serve you, not you serve money” – much of the reason why we struggle with money in marriage and relationship, is because we are trying to control what is not ours to begin with – We try to control it, because in our minds it is the very thing we believe will buy (or purchase), the living we want – we have put our confidence in our money, instead of the one who gives the money.

1 Timothy 6:10 – For the LOVE of money is the root of ALL kinds of evil Some people eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many grief’s.

Put Into Practice What the Holy Spirit Has Given You

Hope you’re stepping out in faith in all areas of your life and seeing God’s truth in His word come alive.

Thursday, June 2nd, we will be reflecting on 1 Timothy 4:14-15 and the manner in which we too ought to put into practice that which we have been given by the Holy Spirit. It’s going to be a glorious evening.

1 Timothy 4:14-15 – 14 Do not neglect the gift that is in you, which was given to you by prophecy with the laying on of the hands of the eldership. 15 Meditate on these things; give yourself entirely to them, that your progress may be evident to all.

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