There are three areas in which we see a break-down in relationship:
1). How we communicate in Relationship
2). Intimacy in Relationship
3). Relationship with Money
When the truth giving spirit is giving revelation, it causes the heart of man to be warm and open to what the spirit is saying.
Example: Emmaus road story –
Luke 24:13 – After Jesus had risen, he met with 2 men as they were talking along a road, but they did not recognize it was Jesus – afterword their eyes were opened to who was with them, and said to each other in verse 32, “were not our hearts burning within us while he talked with us and opened the scriptures to us?” The anointing of God causes the hearts of men to be warm, moldable, and pliable, leaving a tangible representation of Gods expression of LOVE.
When a person sees God for who he is, they see love – We have to be careful though, because to often men reject what they don’t understand in their minds – causing them to reject the revealed love of God – because they can’t control it.
Matthew 22:37-38 – Jesus replied: “Love the lord your God with all of your heart and with all your soul and with all of your mind. This is the first and greatest command. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’
It is important as we engage with God in this series, to allow your hearts to opened and warmed by the word of Gods spirit, so that we come out of this series knowing how to have healthy relationship with God, Ourselves, and Others.
As an Introduction to the series, lets look at each topic of conversation we will cover. Some of my teaching will come out of Edwin Lewis Cole book, Communication, Sex, and Money
John 16:13 – And when he the Spirit of Truth comes, he will lead you into all Truth.
Truth is at the core of having solid communication in relation. But, the one truth that we all fail to accept is – if we are going to believe the truth that comes from God, we must first accept that we have to learn what the truth looks like. This is because we are accustom to believing the lie (or expect the lie) than we are the truth – as a result of the deceptive nature we must all battle. This perspective (or lack of) creates a distorted view of the truth, which in turn distorts our ability to live the truth – affecting the way in which we communicate with others.
2 Corinthians 10:5 – We demolish arguments and every pretension (posture) that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
“Trust Makes Vulnerability possible. Lack of trust makes it impossible” (Cole, pg.45)
It is often difficult to talk about one’s level of intimacy with others, because in our minds, intimacy equates to Sex. But the truth is, in any relationship, there are levels of intimacy that occur. TRUST is at the core of our interpretation of LOVE. In fact, in order to give oneself away fully, there has to be a level of trust that has been established by extensive experience with someone.
TRUST leads to SUBMISSION.
Jesus said in John 14:15 If you LOVE me you will obey what I say – this level of Love has its origin in Obedience, and establishes a strong unbreakable level of Trust through submissive obedient experience. The provisions of this love are, Identity, security, and Stability (Cole, pg.46), which are key for developing a solid relationship. From Submission, Jesus says, we are able to receive (Believe Him) the Spirit of Truth, a helper who dwells in us forever.
Submission (honey pot) is at the core of Intimacy, which leads to unity. Often the great struggle in Intimacy between 2 people is:
In a society filled with pornography where lust is glorified, sex is cheap, marriage is portrayed as nothing but a problem and living together a solution, where men and women are viewed as nothing more than a body made to gratify the lust of our flesh and the sexual orientation of a man or woman is compromised by the lie of Satan (Cole pg. 86) – it is refreshing to see that God is raising up a generation who are still willing to do things Gods way.
“Money is meant to serve you, not you serve money” – much of the reason why we struggle with money in marriage and relationship, is because we are trying to control what is not ours to begin with – We try to control it, because in our minds it is the very thing we believe will buy (or purchase), the living we want – we have put our confidence in our money, instead of the one who gives the money.
1 Timothy 6:10 – For the LOVE of money is the root of ALL kinds of evil Some people eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many grief’s.