Back-2-Basics: Relationships – Communication Part 1

John 16:13 – And when he the Spirit of Truth comes, he will lead you into all Truth.

Truth is at the core of having solid communication in relationships.  But, the one truth that we all fail to accept is – if we are going to believe the truth that comes from God. We must first accept that we have to learn what the truth looks like. This is because we are accustomed to believing the lie (or expect the lie) than we are the truth – as a result of the deceptive nature we must all battle. This perspective (or lack of) creates a distorted view of the truth, which in turn distorts our ability to live the truth – affecting the way in which we communicate with others.

2 Corinthians 10:5 – We demolish arguments and every pretension (posture) that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

We all like to win the argument, because we were never made by God to be wrong (the deceptive nature, or sin nature distorted our perspective – causing the lie to be more attractive than the truth).

 

This leads us to react or converse from 2 platforms: 

1). We all have interpretive opinions: We create an opinion from our own interpretation of the circumstance, weather we know what we are talking about or not.

2). We are manipulators: We all want people to see things our way, so we will argue our position as right, until we have won the moment.

 

Satan’s goal is to “Steal the Word – or truth” through circumstance. This began with Adam and Eve, and exist in our lives today.

Isaiah 59:14 – So justice is driven back, and righteousness stands at a distance; Truth is fallen in the street, Honesty cannot enter.

Being still helps us to practice not only listen to God, but as well, we learn to be good listeners to others.

James 1:19 – My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.

Remember that in relationship, “your word is your bond” – Often we are guilty of lying, or making commitments via our words that we fail to keep, and this affects the overall relationship, creating a wedge of dis-trust between us and the person we are in relationship with.  No lie can serve the purposes of God. This is an issue of the heart, as a man or woman’s word is only as good as his character.

***In addressing the grey that has infiltrated Christianity, we must be intentional about responding to God, otherwise we will fear faith, and the areas in which we fear faith, are the areas in which we find the darkest shade of grey – dis-honest living. ***

Proverbs 21:23 – Whoever keeps (hold firmly) his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble

 

Application Exercise:

1). Communication is an essential part of the relationship process. Looking at your relationship with God:

Ask the Holy Spirit to show you what Season you are in – write down what he says, and then begin to talk to Father from this place. Remember, knowing your season, helps you communicate effectively with God, which positions you to participate with Him as well.